Emotional effect

[BlueBells]

But in our case I suspect that the negative effect is stronger, more profound and lasting.

I avoid dramas and almost all reality TV shows. I won't say I avoid every genre of drama, but I sure do avoid those that I know are going to put me in a bad space.

As regards TV, my sensitivity has now got to the point that despite 'self-editing', even some trailers for future programmes &/or adverts can cause me discomfort

@Auriel @SBee @JamieMarc @Rainbow and others

Wow, I am in great company (maybe not so great hahaha)

 

[Badger]

I'll avoid or not really have the patience for certain content too, having said that I do enjoy a good horror movie with an atmosphere and no cheap jump scares.

 

[BlueBells]

@Badger Funny how something "mild" can trigger and yet something pretty full on, that's fine. doesn't make sense, does it?

A quick sum-up, anything where the main character/s or any animals die, I avoid.

 

[SBee]

Oh @Badger I have a soft spot of those comedy/zombie films! The psychological thrillers scare me to bits.
But totally with @BlueBells, any chance of an animal being hurt, in real life or fiction and just can't do it. I watch the news still, but with my hand on the remote to change channels if things get too much

 

[BlueBells]

@Badger @SBee
We are so alike

There was what turned out to be a really good movie, but it took me so many times to get through, as every time I thought it would go bad, I'd quit, and try again later

Grr, finger hit a button, wiped what I wrote, can't remember it now lol

 

[Auriel]

Hi @SBee (
back)

 

[Badger]

There was what turned out to be a really good movie, but it took me so many times to get through, as every time I thought it would go bad, I'd quit, and try again later

It's funny how they can draw us in although we get the creeps that happens to me occasionally, it's one of my favourite genres alongside Sci-Fi, there's such variety. It's more enjoyable than reality TV which can be off-putting.

 

[Rainbow]

It is of some comfort to know that others with Fibro are experiencing similar emotional/psychological reactions,
so a sincere thank you to everyone who have expressed such feelings as it isn't easy to speak of.

I was diagnosed with FMS 13 years ago now but even after diagnosis I previously coped far better emotionally & psychologically
than I do now, even continuing to be a long-serving Trustee of an African Childrens Charity, so clearly this acute sensitivity has developed & deepened over a long period of time, as I couldn't have done that with the hyper-sensitivity I now have.

More recently, I was also a Carer for some years for a family member with serious mental health issues & this was in my own very small home with very little space between us and I genuinely believe that this long-term level of continuing angst & tension may have played it's part in contributing to my now extreme sensitivity too.

It would be interesting to know if any research has been done & the results of such research if it has, as regards to Fibro being connected to extreme emotional/psychological intensity, particularly if there is a link to an individual with FMS having being exposed to & experienced long-term trauma.

Years ago one of my doctors (G.P.) said that I needed to avoid stress, which would have been hilarious had I been able to see the funny side of it because experiencing stress is an unavoidable part of the human condition for all of us, which you'd think a doctor would know only too well.

 

[BlueBells]

It's funny how they can draw us in although we get the creeps that happens to me occasionally, it's one of my favourite genres alongside Sci-Fi, there's such variety. It's more enjoyable than reality TV which can be off-putting.

@Badger Yes, I know what you mean, but this one was not even creepy lol. I think it may have been Dog Gone. Just I was so concerned dog wouldn't make it, but it did. Actually a pretty good movie (depending on your taste).

TV, so pleased I have Netflix, reality shows , and so many cooking shows! I think we had more watchable television when we had two channels to choose from.

 

[BlueBells]

@Rainbow

It is of some comfort to know that others with Fibro are experiencing similar emotional/psychological reactions,
so a sincere thank you to everyone who have expressed such feelings as it isn't easy to speak of.

I feel this is the best thing about these forums, we share with each other, and like the old saying, a problem shared is a problem halved.

It would be interesting to know if any research has been done & the results of such research if it has, as regards to Fibro being connected to extreme emotional/psychological intensity, particularly if there is a link to an individual with FMS having being exposed to & experienced long-term trauma.

I am tending to think we are doing our own research on these types of forums, at least we know how we feel, and we are not being pushed into the boxes that researches think we should fit in. Many researchers have an idea of what they want to find, or prove, and , albeit sometimes unwittingly, tailor results to show the outcome that suits their theories.

Years ago one of my doctors (G.P.) said that I needed to avoid stress, which would have been hilarious had I been able to see the funny side of it because experiencing stress is an unavoidable part of the human condition for all of us, which you'd think a doctor would know only too well.

Although stress is everywhere, one can usually see where it may be possible to avoid situations or lower the level of stress. If a particular person or group are usually at a cafe at around 10am to 11am, and they stress you, then change cafes or go at another time, to avoid the stressful situation. I think that is the type of thing doctors mean.

I'm finding as I get older that I am becoming more sensitive, but I do also wonder if it's actually that I am getting worn out, emotionally and physically, from pushing through the fibro for my whole life (at least since around 12) and the ability to keep going is just too hard to sustain.

I was diagnosed end of 2019, and it has explained so very much, but even so, I am a bit worn out. I crave that "long service leave" that does not apply to me.

 

[JamieMarc]

You did the right thing for your physical and emotional health @JamieMarc (so you did the right thing) there's been situation's in my life were I've had to put my psychological and actual health first (instead of going down legal road's with people that would cause me more trauma + stress = more fibro and retraumatization) there's also someone connected to my tenacy that has been boundary violating (and of late "trying" to gaslight me?) ,
I warned them to never phone me again and only contact me "if" necessary by text or letter) I was in bed for 2 day's after a conversation with them once (that's the effect they had on me) we sometime's have to way up the pro's and con's and cut our losses for our own good (and a lot of the time to avoid a worsening of ourselves)

Amen to that! And thank you so much for the affirmation. I feel so much better. I'll feel even better when I get the check. Lol.
I sometimes also have to tell people not to contact me. In fact, I have done the same thing here with one of our HOA board members. Told him to never come to my home again. If you need to reach me, send me an email. He was very threatening, and I even figured he would attack me. Anyway, being assertive is a very important part of my life. It is a very important thing that I do for myself, and if the other party is not like it, that is their issue not mine to deal with.

 

[Auriel]

Jamie Marc

 

[SBee]

Just sorry @JamieMarc that you have to deal with this kind of abuse even though you obviously had a genuine case. Hope you managed to keep your cool at the face to face confrontation.. I'm a bit bad at keeping emotions in check ( shout, or cry, or both) so much as I can I try to deal with stuff like that via written messages. So I can rewrite until so get the tone right and ensure I make my point.

Yep, don't back down. As I get older I may find more effective ways to fight, but I'm no longer willing to be put upon.

We are all worth better treatment . Good on you.

Hope today is better and you get the good people surrounding you not what amounts to a bully.

 

[JamieMarc]

@SBee
Thank you. Yes, I was able to keep my cool because I practice assertiveness, not passive-aggressiveness nor aggressiveness. As the confrontation escalated to the point where I felt threatened and attacked, I simply said you need to go, I am going to walk inside now. Please leave. Then I walked inside and shut the door and that was the end of it.

I see him every now and then driving his car around the community, and I always make a point of waving if there is eye to eye contact. I don't hold grudges or resentments. They only hurt ourselves. But I also don't forget. I do forgive in time, and I take the high road.

I've had a good couple days with regard to my fibromyalgia, but not so much my stress. Unfortunately, I am dealing with several crises right now involving my home that I am having to deal with quickly. All part of homeownership. LOL. So I'll be focused on that since it is an emergency. An issue with my roof after a severe thunderstorm a couple days ago.

Thanks again, @SBee
Big hugs!

 

[SBee]

@JamieMarc[/USER] you let them think they've won and it's you who I suffers most. Rise above it my friend, your moral ground is higher than people like that.

I've had a good couple days with regard to my fibromyalgia, but not so much my stress. Unfortunately, I am dealing with several crises right now involving my home that I am having to deal with quickly. All part of homeownership. LOL. So I'll be focused on that since it is an emergency. An issue with my roof after a severe thunderstorm a couple days ago.

Head above water though? Sometimes that has to be enough until one thing at a time can be sorted. Just breathe.

Big hugs back at ya!