Hypochondria

[BlueBells]

@sunkacola

I totally get what you mean now. Likewise, I most certainly did not mean to cause upset.

I did not make a distinction between 'specific names' and 'generalised' references.

Please accept my apologies if I caused you any stress, as I don't ever mean to do that.

I try to be respectful to everyone all the time, but I may not always achieve that goal on every day, especially if it is a really bad day and I absolutely don't have the energy to sit and try to think of the very best way to say something.

And even if I do, it might still seem off to someone. If I fall short in someone's view then I feel truly bad about that, but please know and be understanding that I can only do my best, and honestly, that is what I am doing here.
Thank you.

We are quite alike in that way. Hugs

 

[BlueBells]

@sunkacola

My apologies, I did not make a distinction between specific names and generalised the way you have explained.

I try to be respectful to everyone all the time, but I may not always achieve that goal on every day, especially if it is a really bad day and I absolutely don't have the energy to sit and try to think of the very best way to say something.

And even if I do, it might still seem off to someone. If I fall short in someone's view then I feel truly bad about that, but please know and be understanding that I can only do my best, and honestly, that is what I am doing here.
Thank you.

You and I are so very alike in this. Please accept my apologies and thank you so much for your clarification. Hugs

 

[BlueBells]

@SBee and @sunkacola

Not sure what happened there. I posted the one, and it disappeared, so I posted the next, and now they are both there

the internet is a bit dodgy at times, so I'll be happy to blame that

 

[Mr Bee]

Learning to live with it can feel like learning to swim by starting at the bottom of the pool.

Actually Badger.. you nearly had that right!
I was thinking the other day! Yes, we have fewer days that we’re able to think when we get older!
Thinking, that we actually have to swim every day from the point of catching Fybromyalgia. While you’re awake, you swim for life instead of walk or run. With that the ache of never being able to stop swimming or you will drown! Coupled with you don’t have time to think because you’re too exhausted or tired!

Swim for life!

 

[BlueBells]

@Mr Bee

Thinking, that we actually have to swim every day from the point of catching Fybromyalgia.

Hi MrBee. Hopefully this year the pool will be shallow enough you can walk a bit

 

[Mr Bee]

Hi MrBee. Hopefully this year the pool will be shallow enough you can walk a bit

Got Shingles again, so not a good start.

 

[BlueBells]

@Mr Bee

No, not a good start at all. Let's hope that's the worst for the year, and things only get better

 

[Badger]

Despite our discomfort I wish everyone well in the days ahead this year.

 

[Auriel]

Oh @Mr Bee I do hope you're rid of your shingles soon, yes @Badger we'll soldier on as best we can, Hi @BlueBells (hope you're ok),

 

[BlueBells]

Hi @Auriel

Yes, I'm doing okay thanks. Very heavy workload (for me) so I'm pacing carefully as the pressure will be on again shortly for another 6 months or so.

Thanks to support and information on here, I am learning to "read" fibro, and slowly getting the steps of the dance together. Appeasing gremlins and learning more about myself as well, a big learning curve, but getting there.

Quite often I am just too pooped to reply, maybe just browse, a couple of likes, and then I'm done, hence so quiet.

Take care, all of you. Happy New Year Hugs

 

[sunkacola]

Thanks to support and information on here, I am learning to "read" fibro, and slowly getting the steps of the dance together. Appeasing gremlins and learning more about myself as well, a big learning curve, but getting there.

This is a lot of what it is to learn how to live with fibro. I am ever so glad that the forum is helpful to you, as that is the whole purpose here! It is a bit of a dance, and definitely a learning curve. I have been learning it for many years now, but I don't think I will ever feel I have learned about it....meaning the learning will never be all done for me. For one thing, it keeps changing. A friend once said to me that I just needed to "find the sweet spot", and I replied that that would be a lot easier to do if that spot didn't keep moving!

Learning more about oneself is definitely part of it, I think. And that is sometimes a huge challenge, at least it is for me. I recently have asked myself what is me making excuses and what is me truly not being able to do things. What is me really unable to accomplish much in a day and what is me being lazy. I don't know if this applies to anyone else but me. But I have recently seen that my inability to get things done on some days has led me into depression which in turn makes me feel like not doing anything even on the days when, physically, I actually could get some things done. I have never been lazy in my life, but I think the combination of the fibro and depression has brought that on in me, just in the past year, and that can spiral down into a bad place.
I really hope this kind of thing isn't happening for anyone else here, as it's not easy to work with it. But the important thing is to carry on, just keep trying, and see what tomorrow brings.

 

[SBee]

@sunkacola this is my own view in that I think if we are people who have lived with depression, that has affected us in varying degrees, it never fully leaves us. There are times when it is very well managed whether by medications, therapy, or our own willpower ( and quite probably a mixture of techniques) and we feel mentally stronger, the black cloud lifts enough that the depression feels it has gone, and life is generally easier from the MH side of things.
But,like other symptoms we have in most health conditions, after a time of respite, the effect of symptoms become far stronger again. And damned if I can always find a reason why this happens sometimes.
I think depression is like that. I often say fibromyalgia doesnt play nice. Well that be said tenfold with depression. I think its always within us.

I believe you have had depression in varying degrees for quite some time. Again, its not something we ask for, and I am not prying here, we all have the right to say as much or as little as we wish in any aspect of our lives. But the simple fact of you mentioning this shows it is a concern of yours. And yes, I can relate to the spiralling effect.

I hope you are putting in place any technique or help you may have had before. That you know yourself there may be a point when you need to seek some additional help. Knowing that is a strength, never a weakness.

From what I little know of you from this forum , it can never be said you are lazy. You are always here giving advice and support. You remain always devoted to your animals. You are living with the debilitating symptoms of fibromyalgia. You have a history of depression. These are exhausting conditions. Just recognize if there is a point where you feel it is slipping to a worse state.

Congratulate yourself for getting up each day. Appreciate any small achievement you can make in a day. Accept your self acknowledgement that your MH may be needing to be treated differently, even on a temporary basis.

Having known times in my life when depression begins to take a bad hold on me, I feel for you.

You say quite rightly the purpose of this forum is to be helpful - dont forget that this really does apply to you too.
Take care .

 

[sunkacola]

@SBee .......Thank you very much. Your words mean a lot to me.♥

Actually, I have had depression for almost my whole life, since I was 12, and it is always at the very least just around the corner. There is nothing I have not tried, and years ago I resigned myself to the fact that it is something I will always have. It's only a matter of degree and how long the wort times last. Like fibromyalgia, for some of us, depression is something that can be lived with and managed, but not cured.

 

[BlueBells]

@SBee @sunkacola

I will certainly reply to these couple of posts, but I had a fairly big day yesterday ( wow! A drive, hour each way, to chat with a friend for a couple of hours.) Now that should not be taxing at all, but today I know I need to back off, or tomorrow is gone too.

In short, depression. I have been told that I've suffered from depression since primary school (bad nerves it was called then) but by my teens, I didn't believe it. I believed the way I felt was not related to what they told me it was, because, for me, their theories didn't apply.

Since fibro diagnosis, late 2019, I firmly believe it is not the "clinical" depression, but a depression borne of the frustration and limitations of fibro, and since I've been understanding this, and embracing the fact that it's frustration and my attitude to that frustration that brings me down, I seem to be able to not allow it to hit me like it used to. It's more the attitude "it's fibro, the gremlins are partying, just back off and let them go, don't fight it".

Certainly not saying it always works, but I feel much better, more relaxed, and less likely to be affected by criticism from others.

Any questions, feel free. Head is a little blah, so not as eloquent as I would like, so some might get lost along the way

 

[SBee]

@BlueBells I agree that accepting depression is another part of us does help. For me, I almost 'like' putting a name/ diagnosis to such a thing so I can face it head on. Of course if we are down in the lowest of lows thats hard to do. Then its more a case of riding it out, or asking for extra support from professionals. I think with clinical depression it lacks a cause, or a known reason, as such the git just sneaks up and pulls up down whenever it wants to.

And I understand how tired you must be after a busy day- any stress, even good stress can be exhausting. So take some days to be quiet and rest up. You and those pesky gremlins take care of yourselves. ❤