Is Satisfying Sex Possible With Fibro?

[onsecondthought]

Sex life for me is an on and off thing depending on pain levels. Most nights I'm so exhausted and sore, there's little interest. But the days we can make it happen, it's a magical thing.

 

[TomRalphio]

My SO has fibro and we manage to get by pretty fine. We were patient and took our time figuring out what worked best for us and when that was done- fireworks!

 

[terbaer]

I don't know if any of you watch or listen to Dr. Jenn, but I do. She's great. I don't know what I can offer with those of you who have significant pain. I'm so sorry about that. Dr. Jenn does say in general that in order to have desire, ya gotta put it to use. So as far as having sexual interest, maybe get creative? What if it's just watching a porn and petting to start? How about a hot shower with bath gel massaging to warm the muscles? Is there a fantasy you have (if you reach deep into your mind) that you could either find a story line porn similar, or your significant other would be willing to do with you? IDK....?

 

[TomRalphio]

Exactly, just experiment and find out what works best for you. It can take some time, but it sure is worth it

 

[athena_]

Wow, this is a sad thread to read through but it would appear we're all in the same boat. I'm 46 and also have gone through the total lack of libido and dryness. My GYN is a superhero for me and my husband of 15 years. DR ran all kinds of blood tests to check my hormone levels and I had zero estrogen, testosterone and progesterone. So, I started taking oral estrogen for hot flashes and getting an estrogen injection every 3 months - dryness went away overnight with the injection (thank the lord). Then I asked about the low testosterone and DR prescribed from a compounding pharmacy. It's a cream I apply nightly - a pea size drop. It's basically instant libido in a cream (well it took about 2 or 3 days to kick in). I asked DR about getting hubby some of that cream and he told me to rub some of mine onto hubby's shoulder at night. And bam! It works beautifully and efficiently. DR says that when my menopause is over (5 years total) I will switch to an estrogen cream 3 times per week for dryness and also the testosterone cream 3 times per week for libido if needed. I realize that my post to this thread is very post-dated but perhaps my information can help someone, I hope it does.

 

[Trellum]

Sex life for me is an on and off thing depending on pain levels. Most nights I'm so exhausted and sore, there's little interest. But the days we can make it happen, it's a magical thing.

Same here lately! It sad it happens like that, I never remember my life being like this and so full of pain! At least your partner doesn't have such a strong libido! When you have fibro and have to deal with a partner who has a very strong libido... then it gets pretty tough.

 

[gerald]

It's sad to hear that a disease can't let you do the things you do before you acquired them. Well, Fibromyalgia is a disease wherein you gradually experience pain all over your body, other than that you also experience fatigue. It is difficult to have a satisfying sex with this kinds of symptoms. Maybe try other positions, you know try to experiment. You can also ask your doctor how to manage it. I wish you good luck in your sex life. It must be difficult for you and your husband.

 

[terbaer]

I want some of the cream Athena has! I've never had my hormone or estrogen levels checked and pretty sure I've gone through (or still am) the change at 49. Tell me more about the cream!