need to vent

[sunkacola]

30 plus years, I understand how you feel sometimes when someone complains about pain that is only temporary. Like you, I sometimes feel like saying to them how lucky they are that it's not there all the time! Like you, I have these thoughts and I don't speak them out loud.

But I don't think we need to be ashamed of these thoughts that go through our heads, assuming we don't say them aloud. There's no shame is just having the thought if we don't dwell on it. In fact, I think it's pretty normal to feel envious of another person now and then.

The main thing I try hard to do is just not to let that thought stay in my head. I let it just go right on through, and then I think of what I have to be grateful for in my life. That way, the thought is just a passing thing, doesn't hurt anyone, including myself. And I bet you do the same thing, so I don't think you should feel bad about those thoughts.
(Just my opinion).

 

[pandoralys]

I’ve got a mother exactly like that.she never takes any notice of my pain and is always asking me to do jobs around the house.i’ve got my own house,wife,kids,though they’ve got their own houses.i’ve had it for 25 years and she never thinks I’m in pain.just are you doing my jobs today.i tell her I feel crap and she then ignores me and I mean ignores me,maybe for months,years.she’s very cold and bitter towards me and it won’t change.its a struggle making people understand.we’re the silent sufferers.hope you’re ok we are all here for you.its a big community!!

It's such a struggle yeah, mainly because it's difficult for a "regular" person to understand how it is I'm guessing. It must be hard to be ignored like that in those moments.. sending you positive vibes ! Little update on my story : I recently began consulting at the hospital, doing tests blablabla to find a course of treatment, and it's only then my mom realised I was dealing with an actual illness in a way and began caring. She's months late on that so I resent her a bit, mainly out of pettiness