Yeah my friend & me got into that but eh yeah to each there own in all honesty. I mean you don't have to take it them.
Eh true I mean have tried over the years to stop complaining to friends. I mean I understand once in awhile is OK but eh I end up doing it anyway. I mean I get what your saying & I realize that but then it all goes down hill eventually. So eh I just need some other kind or place to vent truthfully like like you said.
Come here and vent all you like. that's what we are here for.
Here's what I have done when I have had a tendency to go on about something that gets to be too much for other people. I do this: I ask the other person, "May I have permission to vent for 10 minutes?" Then, if they say Yes, I rant all I like but I set a timer on it or ask my friend to cut me off at 10 minutes, and that's that. On to other topics.
That way, your friend can say "no", if they are not in a good place to be hearing someone else complain about their life, or if they think it will bring them down. And, they learn that if they say "yes" it doesn't mean that the entire conversation will be dominated by one person complaining. It works great, because that way they have a choice, you are being considerate, and you are not using the other person.
Really...try it! I have done it with several of my friends, and they usually say Yes because they know I really mean it if I say 5 minutes or 10 minutes. I am a person who never ever wants to burden other people; it goes against my grain and all I believe in. At the same time, sometimes I need to bounce something off another person, so this works really well. It gives me an outlet but keeps me from going on and on about something which almost always means being repetitive, because most of what is going on really only takes 5 or 10 minutes to tell. Try this and let me know how it goes.
