Oh dear, that's quite a load, StarHome!
Is there any relief from these or ways to deal with them
Definitely things you can try for improving, probably not cure.
@sunkacola's general advice post
here is a good start for anyone with any pain symptoms. And connecting here with further details and questions. Whether you have fibro or not.
Gabapentin and put me on Senemet
Gabapentin is for neurological pain, so understandable. And is often used off label for fibromyalgia, if some of our pain seems neurological.
Sinemet is for Parkinson's and raises dopamine using levodopa (also helps RLS).
If it's that that helps more, that might give a clue - has Parkinson's been formally excluded? A doc gave me levodopa to see if it helps sleep, so to "diagnose" RLS. It didn't. Quite a few serious side effects, so nothing to play with if it's not helping a lot.
The Neurologist put that I appear to have symptoms of Fibromyalgia.
So far I have had no consult in it.
If you're keen to judge for yourself you could do the test on our main site or have a direct look the ACR 2016 criteria on which it is based... These criteria state that you can well have something else, but if you have the appropriate symptoms, then the fibromyalgia diagnosis should be given. In my experience it might point you to more helpful treatment as well as bringing you here.
I know my symptoms of being unable to have any thing but silky or smooth fabrics next to my skin. Long contacts like long cuddles etc. is very painful.
Allodynia we call that, various sorts depending on the trigger (e.g. hot/cold is also possible)
I have nerve pain that spreads throughout my body and severe muscle spasms.
Loud sounds really make my nerve pain start, as well, some bright lights.
Pain only in the ears is now being called pain hyperacusis, noxacusis, auditory nociception or noise-induced pain, according to healthyhearing "a new diagnosis in the field... in the last 10 years". But you mean all over, so things like the article "Mother of two develops excruciating nerve condition triggered by loud noises" in the Australian thenewdaily might come familiar. Her diagnosis is complex regional pain syndrome, CRPS. If you haven't had that considered that's what I look out for.
Is there any relief from these or ways to deal with them
She uses "prescription medicines, spinal cord surgery, ketamine infusions, physiotherapy and is currently trialling cannabis oil".
Best strategy to "deal" with pain mentally is the "radical acceptance" that Acceptance and Commitment Therapy uses, cos like the serenity prayer it helps motivate as well as accept, which saves a lot of energy.
Hope you find some good things!