GETTING TOBE TO MUCH

[PANOWLCHAP]

I DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP BUT THE PAIN IS SO BAD TODAY. I'VE BEEN VERY DEPRESSED LATELY, I HAVE FM AND CFS PLUS NURMEROUS OTHER MED ISSUES. SOMETIMES IT GETS TO BE TO MUCH AND I QUIT FIGHTING. IF I DON'T DO MY FIBRO THINGS EVERYTHING IS MADE WORSE. I AM ON MY OWN NO REAL FRIENDS BUT I DO HAVE THINGS I AM THANKFUL FOR. THEY ARE HARD TO SEE WHEN IN SO MUCH PAIN. THE WEATHER CHANGE PLIPFLOP PARTLY REASON FFOR MUSCLE KNOTS AND PAIN. MEDS KINDA HELP HEAT SITIHASU TOO. THE MED I WAS DOING SO WELL ON IS NOT BEING MADE RIGHT NOW. NOT DOING GOOD ON NEW ONE.

 

[Auriel]

I understand the weather changes making things worse (is getting colder uk now and it's challenging my legs and lower back) when it comes to friendships sometimes people don't realise that not everyone is right for us (I've had some really toxic manipulate people in my life - past tense) if the people you've got are good, keep them , fibros a strange challenging condition (it is hard to see the good when things are bad and we're really down but there are good things) the med you were taking isn't being made? Has it stopped momentarily for more to be made? Also talking about people around you, if they stress you out, bring you down, confuse you continually cut them out! (stress makes fibro worse) I had to be on my own for a while (I had to cut a lot of people out, family included) before I found good people (and realised I deserved good people) also welcome to the forum ️️

 

[PANOWLCHAP]

I HAVE CUT TOXIC PEOPLE MY HUSBAN WAS FIRST ON THE LIST HE SAID HE WOULDN'T TAKE CARE OF ME AND CONSTANTLY HARASSED ME. MY MOM'S PASSING AT 87 WAS A BIG STRESS RELIEF. I NEVER HATED HER LIKE MY BROTHER AND SISTER BUT I SHOULD HAVE. CUT MY SISTER OUT WAS A GREAT RELIEF TOO. MY BROTHER DIED 2004 CANCER. I DON'T WATCH THE NEWS ANY MORE. BUT LIFE IS STRESS AND YOU CAN'T JUST CUT EVERY THING OUT.

 

[JayCS]

I DON'T WATCH THE NEWS ANY MORE. BUT LIFE IS STRESS AND YOU CAN'T JUST CUT EVERY THING OUT.

True, and a bit of "stress" is necessary and it's a continual challenge to find the balance.
One big source of stress this year was being thrilled by all the new birds in our garden, a big part of my world for the first time this year.
I had to learn that half of these little critters that I love and give bird food to are themselves bird food and also do lethally silly things. So I've had to emotionally distance myself and love them in a different way. Same with one of our guinea pigs that's losing weight every day. It's sort of stress feeding him up for several hours a day, but I'm learning to relax and just enjoy him and make him feel as well as possible altho his bad teeth are limiting his appetite and processing.
Good on ya for getting rid of toxic people and not watching that selection of the worst things happening in the world rather than all the good things.
Same as with my praps slighter examples it's good to learn to let go of the past and the bad, and learn to focus on the good things that make me happy here and now. The more intense and longer the better.

 

[Auriel]

I stopped watching news a while ago (had to be told by someone about covid) sometimes it comes up on my youtube feed but im ignoring it cos events right now are horrific, Yes, toxic people (abusive people/ people that can't/won't be there for you) need to be let go of, yes things in life can be stressful (and with this condition we really don't need extras) if you feel down like you want to give up please speak to someone (gp, counsellor, someone on the phone who's trustworthy keeping your information safe) there's nothing wrong with reaching out to people when you feel things are getting too much

 

[PANOWLCHAP]

THANK YOU FOR SHAREING WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. MY DOG BELL MAKES ME HAPPY. I HOPE TO START WALKING OUT SIDE WITH HER. I HAVE 2 ACRES IN THE COUNTRY, BEAUTIFUL TO WALK AROUND. THERE ARE ALL TYPES OF BIRDS, DEER, SMALL AND MEDIUM CRITTERS. I COULD DO WITH OUT THE MICE INVASION THIS SPRING WHEN THE LAND TO THE FRONT AND BACK PLOWED. DID I MENTION IT IS BEAUTIFUL HERE IN NW TN.

 

[PANOWLCHAP]

THANKS FOR YOUR CONCERN I DID ALOT OF COUNCELING WHEN I FIRST LEFT MY HUSBAN [DIO. PTSD]. THE PAIN AND FATIGUE IS WHAT GETS TO ME. MYPAIN WAS OFF THE CHART LAST WEEK. I SHOULD HAVE GONE TO THE HOSPITAL BUT I WOULD HAVE TO GONE OFF MEDS FOR 8HRS SO THAT I COULD DRIVE THERE. IT WAS A WEATHER CHANGE COLD, RAINY. I AM MUCH BETTER TODAY AND THE WEATHER IMPROVED. POSITIVE THOUGHTS

 

[Auriel]

 

[sunkacola]

Cold weather, especially if cold and damp, is very often cause for exacerbated symptoms in people with fibro as well as with many other syndromes. I couldn't live in a chilly and damp climate at all. I'd end up like the Tin Man when he was rusted!