2024 was horrible for me

[Drummer76]

I'm glad 2024 is over with. Let's start out with January, Inhad shoulder surgery for a torn rotator cuff,worse surgery on the shoulder.
Never got behind the drums after that.
Then my dad's condition got much worse in August and he was in the hospital for 4 days. At the same time,I had an MRI on my lower back and found out I had bulging disc that are bothering me and it's been very painful. I have had 1 injection and going back for more. Currently on pain meds that don't work much.
Then had to out one of long time dogs down in November.
December was the worst. My dad passed away December 24th and ww laid him to rest December 30th. Then I got a horrible cold to finish off the year.
I don't think I have had a year so bad in my life. Here's to 2025 being a better year and getting my life back together and my back issues taken care of. Trying to avoid surgery but it will probably be something I'll have to do to try and get rid of the pain and off the pain medication.
Ty for letting me vent and rant

 

[SBee]

@Drummer76 I dont have enough of the right words to say how sorry I am the last year has been so unbelievably tough and sad for you. Both in your own health and also for the loss of both your dad and your dog. These are huge changes in your life. I feel for you.
Finishing off with getting a cold may be because ( understandably) you are worn by the stress of what you have faced and continue to face.

I hope in time, you will begin to be a little stronger in every way. If at all possible, try to be extra kind to yourself, rest when you can. Try to eat healthy to help your body. Well, you probably know all this but at times of great stress it can be hard to find the time or inclination to treat ourselves as best as we should.

I wish you well.

 

[Drummer76]

Thank you.
I am starting mental health therapy on Jan 29th. I feel I really need it since my last therapist left and went to another state.
It's going to take me a long time to get through losing my dad. We were close and I spent a lot of my time with him. So much that my exe girlfriend got mad and started in on me so I told her it was time for her to go. I didn't need the stress. He passed the very next day. I got the call at 925am from my mom and I hurried and got there. I'm surprised I didn't get pulled over wit how fast I was driving. I got there and he was still in bed,breathing heavily and not really conscious. He would nod his head if you asked him something,but that's all he could do. I turned his TV on so he could listen to the shows he liked until he passed at 12:50pm. My mom laid in bed with him until he passed.
I haven't lost a parent before,so this had been really rough on me.
The hospice nurse came and got him cleaned up and my daughter helped her out since she knew how to do that sort of stuff and she needed help. She has stayed in contact with us and checking up on us to see how we are doing. She said she never does that, but she really liked my dad and got to know him. She even came to his funeral,which she said she never does. He got along with everyone. He didn't even want a nurse and I had to tell the hospital when he was there in August to set it up. He was ok with it after her 2nd visit.
Before he passed,we were giving him his morphine so he was in no pain. His last dose I suggested to my mom to give him the dose he was suppose to be on so he wouldn't suffer. He passed shortly after. His dose was suppose to he .25 but it made him tired so the nurse told us to drop it to .125mg which worked and didn't put him asleep.
His funeral was nice and they done a good job to make him look at peace.
Thanks for letting me rant.